Anonymous asked: I'm single, accepted Christ, and I've never had a Christian dating relationship yet. I'm not specifically looking for a boyfriend anytime soon either, haha. I was curious if you have had a christian dating relationship with a guy? If so, how has it gone and did you feel like the guy treated you better/ made you feel better than your previous non-christian relationships. (Sorry if that came off as weird, it's a weird question, I know : P)
It’s not weird at all! In fact, it’s an excellent question.
Yes, I have been in relationships with Christian men. Yes, I have been in relationships with non-Christian men. What is the difference? Honestly, the difference was simple: one believed and one did not. I know that doesn’t sound like a good answer, but think about it. If you are a Christian and you are dating a Christian guy, they understand your mentality, at least they should. They understand your love for Christ, and they understand your devotion to God. If they aren’t a Christian, they won’t understand unless they experience it for themselves. When I dated the Christian guys, we had something to bond over. We prayed for one another, we talked about Church, we discussed the power of God and his grace and how cool it is to be loved by such a great Creator. He understood my desire to be a missionary, and he supported me in it. When I dated the non-Christian, it felt like I was leading a double life. I would talk about my church and my faith, but he would simply nod his head and go “that’s cool” and that would be the end of the discussion. Even when I shared the gospel and we had deep conversations, he didn’t fully understand the most intimate parts of my soul because he did not know my God. Does that make sense?
Each person I’ve dated is unique and different. Even the Christian guys were not perfect. Nobody is. But because he’s been saved by Grace and I understand the power of forgiveness, we were able to get through some difficult times because we had God on our side, whereas with the non-Christians I didn’t have that spiritual support from him, so it was harder for me to ask God to bless our relationship.
That’s why I’ve decided I want to date Christian men. For me, they should be at a level of spiritual growth that matches mine. So that we are able to fill each other up, lead each other spiritually, and share a greater joy and happiness that is found only in Christ Jesus.
I hope that makes sense. If you have any more questions, don’t hesitate to ask! :)